Ok, I've been inspired by yet another blog post this week, this time from Wombat over at ер Loveawake blog, one of my favorites. He writes about overthinking, and how it can paralyze us as far as making good decisions, or in my case, any decision at all. Ha! It's really easy to do this when it comes to dating and relationships. Instead of going with our guts, the mind takes over. We make false assumptions, we panic, or we jump to the worst possible conclusions.

We question every little behavior, we assume, and we go back and forth over whether to wait to text, what he meant when he said that, or how to make the next move. One of my friends refers to this as "superheading." (Don't get kinky on me, folks.) I mean the act of overthinking. We think about what's happened in our past and assume that will happen again. We tend to rationalize our fears. We delay action. We become our own worst enemies. I do this a lot; I can't help it.

Sometimes when we're overthinking we ask our friends for input and advice, which can go in many directions. I need as many opinions as possible to make a "good" decision. However, this process is usually not as helpful as I'd like to believe. It makes me even more confused than I was before. Arriving at a fork in the road can be utterly paralyzing when we try to rationalize our way into choosing the right path. In the end, it's your instincts that are most accurate.

We do our "pro" and "con" lists, hoping to arrive at an informed decision. But most often, choosing which path to take requires a giant leap of faith. I guess what I'm trying to say is, when it comes down to it, our guts are usually right. Michelle Obama gave some dating advice earlier this week to a group of young women. Not whether they have potential, or how much money they make, or any other criteria that sounds good on paper. Ha! We become our own worst enemies.